After a Bengali wedding in Bangladesh are the couple expected to offer proof of consummation?
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I know that in some asian countries the couple have to show the bloody bedsheet or other proof the next day and I was wondering if this is the case in a Bengali marriage. Is there a way that the families have to ensure that consummation took place? What would happen if the family were suspicious that consummation had not happened?
The wedding in question was in the Syhlet area, and the grooms family can be described as being very traditional.
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Answer by emmybob3
After reading several online articles, I don’t believe it is part of a traditional Bengali wedding. The only things I read that referred to consummation of the marriage was that the bedroom of the bride and groom’s new house is decorated with flowers for the first night, for them to begin their ‘conjugal bliss’. I read nothing further about parading a bloodied bedsheet.
If it’s not a custom that is always done, perhaps you have a bit of lee-way to argue that you do not wish for this custom to be part of your wedding? It doesn’t seem like it is a very big tradition, as it is not mentioned in any of the many articles I have read about it.
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March 21st, 2011 at 2:35 am
It is just personal to the couple.
No proof need to be shown to any third party.
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March 21st, 2011 at 3:15 am
Hi! I am from Bangladesh and I can assure you that whatever you heard is not our Bengali custom, nor it is in our religious (Islamic) culture. In Bangladesh, after the couples are married, they are on their own. None can poke their nose into the matter unless one of the couples report any serious breach of trust or contract (marriage covenant).
However, I read a few articles those refer the customs you have mentioned are prevalent among the Arabs and some African countries. I have been to Pakistan, Iran and India and I have never heard anything like that in these countries.
In my understanding, these customs of displaying blood stained bedsheets or handkerchief to the immediate female family members on the following day of first night together as a proof of virginity of the bride among the people who are still living with the notion that it is the girl who must be 100% pure and virgin (read the arrogant & illiterate people having male domination, irrespective of their race, religion or color of skin).
Hope above helps.
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